It’s been a very long time since I’ve been drunk or even drank more than a few sips. I’ve never been a drinker. I was always into drugs so much more. I have an alcoholic in the family and it was just never really appealing to me.
I am also a bit of a control freak too so when I did drink I lost my inhibitions, as one does, and put myself in situations were I was going to say to much or do to much and I just never really liked that. Plus, in order for me to drink around someone I have to fully trust them, not drive after and be able to enjoy myself. I have nothing against drinking and don’t care if I’m around people that do but it’s been a very long time since I’ve let my guard down that much.
When I was younger it was the drugs that kept me coming back to the point where I knew if I didn’t stop they’d have a hold on me until life no longer held me. Back then though it was tough for me to care if life was still holding on or not. As I type this I don’t consider weed a drug so that was never a concern.
For me, my drug of choice was ecstasy and there was about a year straight a group of friends and I would do this every weekend. We’d either go to someone’s house that didn’t have parents, go to a hotel (usually really nice one’s too) or lastly if the other two weren’t an option we’d all just go to my parents home because they didn’t care what we did or didn’t know. We’d be listening to music and laying in the pool for hours. Be in our “game-room” with blacklight posters and a six foot black light or stupidly walking around the neighborhoods or driving to the beach. I actually don’t remember ever feeling as comfortable, open or loved than we all were back then.
None of those days are days that I regret. There are several occasions when those days are brought up in a very happy sense and the memories makes us all feel very nostalgic. However, I do often think that it’s amazing that all of us are still alive after the things we did.
There was this one night that four of us were doing x in my home when my parents were away somewhere and it was also around the same time I was attempting to sell pills. I remember taking the first pill with everyone else but the next memory I have is 24 hours later, waking up with five empty baggies around me and having no idea what had gone on for 24 hours. After a few days I realized what had happened. There’s that high that you get that nothing is wrong but it was when that part started fading that I took another and another and another and another because I was so desperate to stay in that happy place forever. Between that and an incident with my BFF that got me to stop all drugs.
My BFF was/is probably one of the most responsible people I’ve ever known. She would do the recreational drugs with us when she had time but works so much and didn’t realize that we’d started doing some heavier drugs. Until one day she decided to look at my Greencard in my wallet and dramatically a small baggie with white powder flung out with a tiny straw. She never actually said anything to me about it but it was the look on her face of massive disappointment that was the final nail in the coffin that made me stop completely. The date of the last hard drug I’ve ever done was December 24th, 2000.
I decided to tell this story tonight because one of my guy friends asked me on a picnic this weekend and he asked what it would take for me to have some wine. Internally, my first thought was, to be around someone that I trusted much more than I do with him. But I declined the entire invite even though a picnic sounds so amazing right now.
In fact, back in those drug-filled days, one of my favorite memories is going to this park by a friends house the day after we’d partied. The girls would all look like raccoons from the makeup the night before and the guys would be like drowned rats but we’d go to the park with guitars and smoke a little and play acoustic guitar and sing for hours. I miss those days a lot.
I can’t say I’ll never drink or do any drug again but I don’t need to because I’ve worked through a lot of the reasons why I was so heavily into drugs back then. Of course they were an escape from shit that had happened and childhood trauma. Since then I’ve learned how to handle those things in a healthy manner. I know that if I ever did any of that again it would be because I was with someone that I fully trusted and didn’t mind losing or giving up control for a while. To be honest, it’s probably about time I lose control for a bit soon.
So those are my thoughts tonight and my weekend plans are sorting out to be as I expected last weekend’s plans to be… Very boring with a lot of work. We shall see. I hope you all have a great weekend. xxx